This is an easy one for me ,Never have I been caught up in Valentines day. When I met my husband 30 yrs ago ,we both had the same outlook .We are not in favor of having a day on the calendar tell us to “do something special for our loved one” we do those things throughout the year. I cant get over the money people spend on flowers-candy -cards due to the fact a date on a calendar reminds you to ” (No wonder hallmark stays in business. ) be nice-do something sweet” for your lover! I hear the men chatter ” I get points” Points- I respond to can you imagine how many points you can get if you did it more often? I do get quite the look -for sure.
Even though it may not be much to some people. I do little things like put gas in the car- (although he is old school & does it for me ) or clean his car out -little love notes in the lunch box- tuck a little scratch off ticket in his pocket. He spoils me too with the little things , when he makes me a cup of coffee on the weekends, he stops by the store to pick up some cheese and crackers maybe some shrimp ,surprises us to watch a movie. I certainly don’t mind when he picks up the table & does dishes , after a big family meal- that is wonderful-. What I love the most is when he comes home & wants to hear all about my day! Not to mention we have date night weekly! I feel like its “valentines day” throughout the year. We try to stay on the same page and in tune with one another.
We have some friends that place so much pressure on each other when 2-14 comes around. They are not even sure what the other wants. Or make a announcement to everyone on how much they spend-like what does that mean? Do you just hand them a $100 bill and tell everyone? WOW- that’s special. To this day friends ask us-What did you get? Same as last year, nothing- we don’t get all hype that you get. Still a perplexed look appears on their face -like they are surprised. To each his own I reckon. Putting pressure on your relationship can cause a strain . Do things because you want to do so. We have enough people telling us what to do- like the bank ( make a payment)- pay your utilities’ -your boss- kids (ha) school activities- those are dates on the calendar., this shouldn’t be one too. Love your sweetie & show them everyday!